Not all love stories are epic novels; some are short stories, but that doesn't make them any less filled with love.
It's my favorite line from the Sex & the City movie. Ten years ago it would have disappointed me greatly, but I think I'm finally getting it.
Three years ago I found my childhood sweetheart; the boy I fell for at 6, the teen who got my hormones racing at 16, and now still catches my breath at 36. We are passionately attracted to each other. Unfortunately, it's clear that even though we are both still single; and that I'm going to love him for eternity we will not be together forever. Our worlds have changed too much, and his life goals don't include me.
I refuse to be sad about this. Instead, I'm living and loving in the moment. After all, I promised him that I'd be the smile on his face and the look in his eyes that his wife won't understand.
Part of me thinks that's an unfair notion; but the other part thinks that's a small price for her to pay for getting the life "I" wanted for myself.
You have to honestly ask yourself (and honestly answer) is being "the smile on his face and the look in his eyes that his wife won't understand" enough for you? If it is, great. If not, make the adjustment - by either commanding (as opposed to demanding) more, or simply offer less. He'll adjust accordingly - guaranteed. Funny thing is that by offering less, you actually command more.
ReplyDeletePlease don't think he's married. He's completely single and never been married. When I say smile on his face and look in his eye that his wife will never understand, I mean when he's older looking back. I would never get involved with a a married man. Please forgive me if that wasn't clear.
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